Category: Relationships
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unsure about your relationship? call me (or maybe don’t)
About a month ago, a friend asked me if I knew a guy from UCLA – someone who is close friends with her husband. He seemed vaguely familiar to me so I sent the photo to a college friend and asked, “Do we know this guy? His photo looks so familiar.” She quickly responded: “Don’t…
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the best of the coasts: nyc vs. sf bay area
After two months away from writing, I am back at my desk and hoping to remember how to be entertaining. January is typically a tough month for me to find creative momentum. I have a plethora of topics to write about but, after I am away from routines during the holidays and new year, I…
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deep dive dating survey: insights from 20-somethings, part 2
Here is the second set of responses from my eight question informal survey about dating in your 20’s right now. Consistent with my last post, I have bolded each question and then portions of answers that I thought were the most revealing. The first question was inspired by a friend who told me that her…
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deep dive dating survey: insights from 20-somethings
A few months ago, I started a really fun project inspired by the frequent conversations I have with my friends. We, as moms of 20–somethings, are often discussing dating norms and comparing them to when we were navigating the same challenges in the 1980’s/1990’s and early 2000’s. Because my kids do not seem to enjoy…
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uptown girl
I am not sure how long this will be the case but I continue to love living in New York City. I feel a sense of wonder, feeling alive at all times and that reaction is amplified by having lived in a quiet suburb for the last 25 years. The best parts of being here?…
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six month city vets
We have now been living in our New York apartment for four weeks. Last night, we had the opportunity to get out of the city and see friends in Scarsdale. A third couple who we had not met before, also from Northern California, were part of our group. Coincidentally, they are in the middle of…
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an optimist and pessimist get married
On the day of my wedding, I remember very clearly thinking to myself, “What is so different about being married after you have been dating for a few years?” I really thought that I knew everything about my future husband and myself and that getting married would just make us “official.” In my brain, after…
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chief of stuff
It has been a year since my husband left his full time job and many of you have asked me how we are handling the transition to Retirement 1.0. I was holding off on writing about this until now because I wanted to give it some time to see what shook out. I have heard many spouses complain about…
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where are they now?
In February 2020, I wrote a blog post called, “The year of the throuple.” What is a little bit funny is that 2020 was the year of so many things but alas none of those headlines included a throuple (think Covid 19, George Floyd, Presidential election). In this post, I introduced the concept of a…
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wedding circuit redux
This spring, we are invited to celebrate two weddings of close friend’s daughters. These invitations mark the dawn of a new era. This is our second round in the wedding circuit but this time we will show up as friends of the parents of the bride or groom or what my daughter often refers to…
Do I have chalk on my face? by Denise Geschke 